Now when I talk about the “Title” I am referring to that status we get from being officially crowned the “Girlfriend,” Boyfriend,” “Wifey” or even “Fcuk Buddy” or “Side Chick.” Now I’m not too sure why someone would officially want to be known as the “side chick” but I have heard a few girls refer to themselves as such, and they appeared to be happy with their title so I’m not going to knock it.

You see my question is: Does putting a “Title” on a relationship tend to improve a relationship and satisfy the parties involved, or does it tend to be damaging?

I believe that in some circumstances a “Title” can improve the quality of a relationship. It gives both parties a clear sense of their role, for example if I’m your “Girlfriend” there is somewhat an obligation to be there for you through emotional hardship, financial instability and to cater to your physical needs. Being the “Boyfriend” implies that you will protect, look after and spoil your girl like the princess she is….. Am I bugging or does that sound about right?

The point is that having a “Title” tends to draw the boundaries of the relationship more clearly. If you asked me to be your “Wifey” and I fluttered my eyelashes, got butterflies and said “Yes” with the upmost satisfaction, one can assume that NEITHER party is entitled to “see other people.” The relationship has become EXCLUSIVE! This being fine and dandy there is obviously a downside to putting a “Title” on it….

The downside mi amours is that if your do slip up and kiss another guy/girl or start talking to other guys/girls you are almost in BREACH of a contract! Ok maybe that’s a bit dramatic… (that’s my law side coming out ) but I feel like if you say I am your girl and then you go fool around with a next girl, you kind of broke the inherent promise that you would not do such a thing, until the relationship became officially over…. Am I right or am I speaking a different language at this point?

Simply put, a “Title” creates responsibilities and obligations on the parties to the relationship, which can result in either one person, or both people, feeling pressure to conform to the social standards imposed by their “Title.” The problem being that sometimes it can all get a little too much, a little too quickly.

You feel like you are suddenly in a serious relationship and your ability to have fun and just enjoy your life has been taken away … You go to a party and feel the need to tell every guy/girl that tries to dance with you that you are “in a relationship” and you begin to wonder whether it’s all really worth it. Even worse, you end up arguing with the person you are in a relationship with because you feel they are not meeting your STANDARD, when it comes to being a good “Boyfriend” or “Girlfriend.”

Now I am not ashamed to say that I personally made it my duty to moan at my exes when they didn’t take me out enough, or didn’t call often enough, or didn’t make enough time for me, purely because I was under the impression that these were things he SHOULD do…. because he was SUPPOSED to be my Boyfriend! Sound familiar to anyone? …. You know you’ve done it!

Anyhu, I just find that so many girls and guys often want that “Title” and when they get it, it can cause what would have been a perfectly long lasting relationship, to deteriorate rapidly ….. resulting in a swift BREAK UP!

Mi amours, I would like to know whether you think having a “Title” is important to having a meaningful relationship? or whether it is better to just take it day by day, without officially being the “Girlfriend,” “Boyfriend” or “Wifey” etc?

Check out the new track from Jagged Edge ft Trina and Gucci Mane, It’s entitled “Tip Of My Tounge” …. What do we think amours?…. Apart from being painfully aware that Trina is a bad bish….

Oh and I heard that “Trina, Kim or Nicki?” track the other day…. and Aside form making me laugh it made me think that 1) all female rappers have been pushed by Ms. Minaj to step thier game UP… and 2) Who IS the BADDEST BITCH? ….

I really want to know …. Trina, Lil Kim, or Nicki Minaj? ….. HOLA?!

I have to say since Minaj came out maaaad Female rappers are coming out of the wood works now-a-days … This one kinda reminds me or Ransom or Shea Davis or suttin ….shes MAD HOOD…. I kina like it doe… lol…

What do we think Mi Amours? …. and Who Is The Baddest Female Rapper in the Game right now…..

 Trina, Kim OR Nicki baybee?

So unfortunately my life got CRAZY again and I was unable cover all the news and events that I wanted to. However after recently telling my boss at my God awful RETAIL job to to Go FCUK herself…..We now return to regular programming!

Nicki Minaj who I interviewed last summer (2009), has finally BLOWN up! She has featured on an enormous amount of tracks in such a short time, as well as appearing on BET’s 106 & Park  TWICE, to date. I have to say I’m very proud of my gurl, she deserves the spotlight!

Ms. Minaj’s status has undoubtedly reached new heights as she  just got her FIRST COVER on the Spring Edition for FADER MAGAZINE,  the launch party for such took place Wednesday evening in downtown Manhattan. The caption for her cover appropriately reads “Nick Minaj Assumes Control”and the article is definitely worth a butchers (U.S. translation = worth taking a look at).

Although the Harajuku Barbie was not in attendance, Grammy-nominated singer/songwriter Raheem DeVaughn did make an appearance. Mr. DeVaughn released his 3rd album to date, The Love & War MasterPeace (Deluxe) on Monday March 1st. The album is available from the Official Store, and you can also get your hands on a copy via iTunes and Amazon.com.

Now as we all know I was IN LOVE with Nicki Minaj… and as I previously mentioned I very happy for her with regards to her success. Now for some unknown reason, I DO NOT have a TV nor a RADIO, but found myself in a friends home a day or two ago watching the “BedRock” Video and well…. IS Nicki Minaj OVER-DOING this WHOLE Barbie thing?

You see my problem is that I feel like her label/her PR people or whoever is in charge of the direction of her image, FEEL like it is ESSENTIAL to market Ms. Minaj USING this GIMMICK rather than having faith that she can do well without her ECCENTRIC BARBIE mannerisms. Now I recognize the value of marketing strategies, and THUS FAR this “It’s Barbie Bitch” phenomena has propelled her to unrivaled success as the TOP female RAPEER in the game right now…..

But Is it just me or do Gimmicks used by celebrities get OLD FAST? My main point being that once people get bored with this Barbie thing, will that effect Ms. Minaj’s appeal?…. As you may know I had the pleasure of interviewing the Harajuku Barbie herself the summer of last year…. and she is, in FACT, an extremely intelligent young woman…. SHE is NOT AN AIR-HEADED Barbie….

So, I wonder, DOES HER IMAGE also send out the wrong message to young girls? Perhaps that air-headedness (if there is such a term) will get you further than intelligence?…Or is it all good becuase SHE’S BAD, she’s doing her thing, and the MAJORITY of people KNOW that she’s more than just a Barbie? 

Honestly I think she does it for the show of it, to get the attention she needs and when she is more established and RESPECTED for her MUSICAL talent, she will take her image in a new direction? THOUGHTS PLEASE Amours……I REALLY want to know what you guys think on this one!!

If you have family or friends in Haiti that you are trying to contact you can call the United States Department at 888-407-4747.

For more information about the Earthquake you can visit CNN.com or BBC News

On a side note I’m disgusted that the BBC DO NOT have a HELPLINE available for people in Englandto call if they are trying to contact family and friends that live in Haiti…. I’m aware that there are not that many Haitians living in London but that is definitely besides the POINT….. they need to SORT IT OUT!!! ASAP!

Haiti Country Profile

Beautiful! …. Damn I kinda missed him…. The fact that my ex sent me this song yesterday is kinda strange and confusing… but thats another topic….. I remember when his first album came out and I listened to “Touch” over and over on vacation in Greece with my girlfriends…. Good Times!

Check out the New Video from Treal and Prince Rick ft Wideframe – “Mr.Hit That” … For the Hip Hop Heads! ;D

Which track are you preferring Mi Amours? ….. I’m with Omarion personally but that’s just because I’m an RnB fanatic!

Check out this new video from Trina – “That’s my attitude” ….

Like or Loathe mi amours?……

I caught this over on Necole Bitchie’s site yesterday and I was surprised athow eloquently and accurately he described the difference between f**king and making love.…. It made me say “ahhhh” and nod my head in agreement! lol Have a butcher’s: (U.S. translation: a look)

Here are 10 Inspirational Reasons YOU should wake up in the morning….. Reach your potential and LIVE your life, do NOT merely exist!

1. You are ALIVE- Wake up because you are blessed with the GIFT of life and many who we would like to still be here to   enjoy life and share it with us have passed. (For example my grandmother, my sister, my next door neighbour) BE GRATEFUL for the blessing of life!

2. You have HOPE  – Even if things are not fabulous and you do not have everything your heart desires, make 2010 the year that you make your life better. Wake up because there is still HOPE for a better tomorrow and you can only find a better tomorrow if you take a STAND today!

3. CHANGE comes with the morning sunrise – Everyday is a new day, Everyday is the opportunity for a NEW beginning, its not only on Jan 1st that you should feel like you can make a change….That day is like any other, the sun rises and sets. MAKE EVERYDAY your Jan 1 and feel inspired every morning!

4. See what the world has to offer- Wake up so you can see what beauties and wonders the world has to offer. Go to a museum and appreciate Black Art that you have never seen before, Go outside and appreciate the seasons…… Just wake UP and OPEN your eyes …. Do something you have always wanted to do! For example a friend of mine recently decided that though she’s as petrified as can be she’s going to so a SKYDIVE…random but THAT’s what life is for, fun and to experience all the world has to OFFER!

5. Find Your Purpose  – Everyone is put on this earth for a reason, If you feel your life has no meaning….This is NOT a reason to lay in bed all day and waste your life….WAKE UP to FIND YOUR purpose, that in itself  IS a reason to get up!

6. Show those who LOVE you that YOU LOVE THEM too!If nothing else use your days to bring joy and laughter to those that love you…. You will find that this in itself brings you happiness and inspires you to be all that you can be…. Spread the LOVE! (ok that’s a bit corny but I’m in a really good mood so … *shrugs and smiles*)

7. To HELP others - If you don’t like your life FINE, but don’t waste it….At least go and use the HANDS, EYES, LEGS and MIND that you are GIFTED with to HELP OTHERS who may NOT have the same faculties and amenities that you HAVE!

8. To be able to look back and say I tried – I look back on some of my year and I am very disappointed in myself, disappointed that I can’t even say with any conviction that EVERYDAY I TRIED my best to get to where I want to be! This is NOT GOOD ENOUGH! When my grandfather when he asked me “Are you trying your best?” Like he did when he first got to England from Jamaica and had to work his fingers to the bone …….I couldn’t look in his eyes and tell him “Yes, Grandad I am trying my best” and that kind of broke my heart a little.

9. To LIVE your life instead of MERELY existing – LIVING your life means that every day you accomplish something, everyday you DO something that makes you feel good or helps another person….. otherwise you are simply EXISTING….and that is a waste of you blessing!

10. Because you are HEALTHY NOW - People take for granted the fact that they have good health, the fact that you can WALK and RUN and speak and DO ANYTHING is NOT a GIVEN! You WILL not always have your health and it’s funny that when people finally find a reason to LIVE they lose their CAPABILITY to do so….hit with a sudden illness or injured in a freak accident…..DON’T be one of the many people that look back and REALISE that you took your health for GRANTED!

Well that’s my inspiration to wake up and CHANGE my life this year and every year from NOW! I hope that if you were/are like I was ……struggling to wake up because NOTHING ever seems to go right….. I hope this helps you to WAKE UP each morning and DO a little more until you find YOUR HAPPINESS and ACCOMPLISH your goals!

GOOD MORNING WORLD!

xcx

The NY Post reported:

The stunning singer and her artist/producer boyfriend, Swizz Beatz, have been looking to buy a penthouse in the Peter Marino-designed condo building at 170 East End Ave., across the street from Gracie Mansion. A source told Page Six, “They’ve been back four times to view it.” Keys is said to be keen on the duplex penthouse, which features a fireplace, double-height ceilings, three bedrooms, floor-to-ceiling windows and East River views. The address has a gym, squash courts and private screening room. The building is home to hedge fund manager Arvind Sanger, who paid $12 million for his penthouse.

I’m not going to hate, If they love each other, good for them….. Let’s just hope karma doesn’t come back and ruin this relationship!  Alicia Keys is set to begin her Tour of North America on February 28th in Montreal, Quebec.

J Boog’s Baby Mother, Jondelle  and his daughter

On a slightly more sour note, J Boog is apparently facing some serious felony charges this week… The former B2K star got into an altercation with his baby mother Jondelle that turned ugly and resulted in J Boogie being charged with “DOMESTIC ASSAULT.”   The saddest part is that this apparently…. all unfolded in front of their children….. continue reading to see the pics and for more details…..

The 24 year old, who’s real name is Jarelle Damonte Houston spent the weekend in an L.A. Jailafter the domestic…. LAPD’S Office Harding told E!: “A patrol unit was dispatched to investigate a domestic violence call…….. He was subsequently arrested and booked on suspicion of domestic assault, a felony.”

J Boog is definitely going through some s**t man…. Just the other day he was getting arrested for a series of drink driving offences and now this…… I think someone needs an intervention! ….And to think he was always my favourite in B2K…… Don’t hate…. Dude was cute!

J Boog’s Daughter (gorgeous)

J Boog’s Son, Jarell

So one of my favourite celebrity couples is apparently getting married!! (yay!) Keyshia Cole and Daniel “Boobie” Gibson are rumoured to be getting married anytime now….. According to mediatakeout.com just after midnight on New Years Daniel produced a 10 Carat Diamond ring and popped the question. Sources say that Keyshia immediately said “Yes” after which she had a lil cry…obvious tears of joy people!

In more news singer, Monica,  has spilled the beans and informed us all via twitter that Keyshia Cole, soon to be Keyshia Gibson will be having a boy… Rumours about Keyshia being pregnant started way back in November……. so I’m guessing she will be expecting her lil boy sometime around May….. I wonder if they will have a small wedding before the baby is born or a big elaborate one after she pops? …. What do think amours?

Either way I’m happy for her, she’s going to have a beautiful family now…. I feel like she deserves it after the insanity shes has to deal with all these years that is the Frankie and Neffe show! …….Awwww can’t wait to see the baby pics I’m sure shes gona have a gorgeous lil bub!