Honestly in this day and age, with technology being so advanced and young people so quick to learn how to access YouTube and Twitter I can’t helped but be stunned by the number of self made “celebrities!” Yes I said SELF MADE, or maybe SELF-PROFESSED celebrities that are carving out a path of stardom for themselves when they have little or no reason to have such a following ….AND have certainly not EARNED the right to be referred to as a celebrity.

Now no offense but there is a difference between being FAMOUS and being a CELEBRITY…. anyone can be famous…. all you have to do is be well known for some reason or the other…and I have no problem with all of the randoms making their claim to fame….What does offend me is that there are a number of people in the spotlight right now, who do NOT deserve to be there. We have REAL ARTISTS struggling for interviews and recognitionbecause everyone wants to know what Kanye’s latest show piece is going to wear (or is not going to wear) on the red carpet……Honestly I do like Amber Rose but the girl has become FAMOUS for DATING a rapper, to a LEVEL which NO OTHER non-talented arm-piece ever has before…. now is that an accomplishment for her or a sad reflection of the state of society?? (I’m not sure but…)

Not only is she FAMOUS but people actually refer to her as a celebrity….my whole issue boils down to this question: Shouldn’t a celebrity be famous for his/her talents?I mean shouldn’t the people we call celebrities, the people young people look up to be doing a little something, shouldn’t a celebrity have EARNED his or her right to be referred to as such.

In addition to having more and more randoms come out of the works I feel like the entertainment industry is become more and more overrun by people who are nothing more than a walking fashion statement…YES I understand image is important….. but I feel like now-a-days people are putting TOO much emphasis on IMAGE and forgetting that what the fuck you say and do, also carry some weight!

Honestly YOUTUBE is just like a piece of chocolate cake luring in all the fat bastards that are starved for attention and just want to get there known! I’m not sure why a random dance by Teyana Taylor is a topic of conversation, when she’s not dancing to any of her own music, it’s not for a music video and ….it just serves no greater purpose other than to say “look at how much free time I have”….. again nothing against the girl but HONESTELY….what the hell is she famous for?……

You see that is my problem, I find myself bombarded with so much information, so many videos from these self entitled, so called “celebrities” that my mind is spinning wondering where the talent went and what happened to all the people out there that actually have something decent to say….Honestly I’m just sick and tired of hearing the same old shit…..what happened to consciousness and conveying a message that will transform and uplift the young people of today……What happened to Black Celebrities that use their fame to enhance the lives of others in their community, instead of hogging the limelight to talk shit and embarrass our race by disrespecting people at award shows for no damn reason? (no names… *cough* KANYE!) …..

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In light of this whole Lil Wayne, Nivea, Lauren London baby drama this week I started thinking about the real issue at hand, that affects 100,000’s of girls and young women all around the world. That issue is having a baby! Yea, they are cute ^^ BUT LISTEN UP!

There are a number of misconceptions and things that, I feel, many young women are simply NOT TOLD. This leads to a countless number of women, young and old, having children for all the wrong reasons. I have to clear this up and shout this information from the ROOF TOPS until you girls GET THE MESSAGE! So….. what is it that they don’t tell you?

Firstly, I feel like NOT ENOUGH women TRULY UNDERSTAND that having a child for a man IS NOT GOING TO MAKE HIM LOVE YOU! Too many girls feel that if they have a guy’s child they will have a stronger connection, through the child, and that some way, somehow, they will be able to come together as a couple and make things work. NO! You are WRONG!!! and that is the end of it!

Here’s the thing….if a man didn’t love you and didn’t want to be with you BEFORE you had the baby…..he is NOT going to love you AFTER your have the baby.YOU KNOW WHY? Because he will forever RESENT you, if you tried to TRAP HIM or FORCED HIM to take on responsibilities he was NOT READY FOR! Men tell me if I’m lying…..(I know some guys have good hearts and will make it work but now-a-days….they are FEW and FAR BETWEEN)

Another thing that everyone plays down is JUST HOW MUCH WORK goes in to raising a child! Think about it, that child is going to be with you EVERYDAY, 24/7, morning, noon and night, needing attention, love and devotion! How will you provide all of that if you don’t have financial security, if you DON’T have a stable and SAFE living environment? and if you DON’T HAVE a NETWORK of support from family and friends?…..I’ll tell you what happens….YOU DON’T PROVIDE WHAT YOUR CHILD NEEDS! And if you think that’s it’s OK to raise a child in sub-standard living conditions, and to NEGLECT your child when it all gets TOO MUCH, just because you didn’t really think it through….then you are SELFISH AND IRRESPONSIBLE!

Now don’t get me wrong sometimes, you just get into a bad situation and have NO ONE there to TELL you this stuff, so if you had a baby and YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN, my heart goes out to you and I hope that you learn to cope. BUT this is WHY I am trying to educate other girls just like you, who’s fate is yet to be decided. I want you to leave a comment and tell them if I’m lying….

OK, lets move on to those girls who have unprotected sex, then justify their pregnancy on the grounds that they DO NOT BELIEVE IN ABORTION. First I will say that for some people this is true, and that is fine BUT…..what I see all the time is women using religion as a cover up for having a child for  all the wrong reasons. Let me tell you WHY I DO NOT BELIEVE YOU………You are NOT acting on any religious values when you go out and get drunk, or go party until sun up……….. you are not acting on moral beliefs when you smoke and harm your body in other ways, you are NOT RELIGIOUS when you don’t even go to church or pray on a good day and YOU WERE NOT RELIGIOUS WHEN YOU WERE FUCKING THAT GUY WITH NO CONDOM, that you are NOT MARRIED TO…..nor will you be acting on religious norms when you have a child out of wedlock!

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OK, so relationships are one of those things that I can’t live with, can’t live without. Now I’m still young so I’m not claiming to have any kind of super expert knowledge on relations but what I do know, and have come to know quite well, is how to keep your man in line. Originally I was the bitch from hell that all men were scared of! (lol, at least I think it’s funny) Then a few of ma gurlies said Cherie, your too hard on the poor sods …. so I eased up…. a bit too much – one muvasucker took the piss!! Which has lead me to the understanding and need for a balance……

So you dn’t know me… but let me tell you this ma mouf is loud and if u rub me the wrong way one too many times I’ll kick ur ass right into the middle of next week and verbally catsrate you without hesitation. Many may think that using some of these tactics in your relationship may be damaging but it keeps your man in line. Let me explain the rationale: If your nice to his ass 24/7 there is no fear! And without fear there is NO POWER!! and power, ladies………. is everything. But there is most definately a balance, as much as it would be fun to just ruin his whole life on a daily basis for no reason (lol, I have to laugh cos ive done this several times, J4F*) there must be a balance if you actually want to keep the realtionship going. (*Just4Fun)

Alright so here are the steps: remember this is not a reciepe for making cookies: you have to play with it and incorporate the things that you know your man likes/dislikes and loathes! ;o) The key to this whole thing is NOT to get too serious; if ur laying down the law don’t be smirkin & shit, but at the same time don’t let the ‘heated discussion’ make u depressed and shit – it’s all part of a game – be a player n wen ur done, just chill, work is over; no need to stress!

Alright so first of all in the early stages of the relationship you have to be his best friend. Be there speak to him as much as he needs you to but please (for the sake of the female species) DO NOT SMOTHER his ass! He needs space and the last thing anyone likes is a bitch that is constantly under your feet. Note: it is not cool to call him 8 times a day if you’ve only known him a week and it is not cool to turn up at his yard at midnight sayin u want a hug, if ur ass was not invited!!! (if u’ve done this ur mad and u need to allow this behaviour – its sooooo desperate! *cringe* and he will leave you for some with less ‘issues’)

Ok so now u have a gd rapport the plan of action kicks in. Like I said we must achieve a balance. A balance of nice and evil, kind and mean, hot and cold, happy and angry and finally the most important balance: fuck wid me and DO NOT fuck wid me!! The first time you have a little tiff (he forgets to call you for a day too long or arrives to the movies an hour too late) ASSERT yourself. Tell him he IS wrong, what he did WAS wrong and that you ain’t got no time for his foolishness. Don’t cuss him out too bad, cos its too early for that(dn’t wori you can play satan later) Then after its all over leave do not call him, make sure u leave it for a few days then call him like nothing happened and carry on with the relationship…(if you’ve ever been in a realtionship you’ll notice that guys do this ALL THE TIME and it works!!)

I’ve just realised this could be a book rather than a blog so I’m cut it down into the key things I think you must do to keep your man in line. If you want a book let me know ;o) lol anyhu….

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See the thing I like about this couple is they are a power couple!! He is a strong, independent, go-getter, motivated man and she is a get-what-i-want, I’m-not-playin-wit-you,  hard-working woman! Together this equals a power couple…… and you know what people…. the only way you can move up in this world and keep climbing that ladder, is to be with someone who is ready to help you to that next step and work with you to knock down the next barrier!

Here’s my point, when your looking for someone to spend your life with, you need to see if they have the same goals you have…… no scratch that they need to have higher goals than yours!!! That way you know that the sky is the limit! It may be hard to understand or sound like I’m not making any real point when i put it this way…. but let me put it in negative terms:

If your with a guy that doesn’t want to get his ass up and strive for more…… if he’s content in that house,

driving that car, having that job forever…… whilst you are fighting for a promotion when half the office are trying to stab you in the back

and working in the mall so you can get that new Mercedes you’ve had you eye on……..

**NEWS FLASH** he is NOT the one for you.

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Last night I turned on the T.V. and found yet another reality show had managed to find its way to the air….. “Gotti’s Way 2,” not that i ever knew there was a “Gotti’s Way 1,” but whatever! Anyways I tuned in and gave it at least 60% of my attention to find that it was actually a little interesting, not because Irv Gotti is trying to re-establish himself as a hip hop mogul, but because of the obvious serious issues between him and his wife.

O.K. so get this….. first of all they have been SEPERATED for 7 YEARS!! Yes, I’m being dead serious! Apparently he comes at the weekend, to spend time with his kids, they play happy family’s for a few days then he goes back to be a single, childless bachelor on Monday morning.

If you think that part was bad…… it gets WORSE……When he comes home at the weekends his wife, Debbie, actually allows him to sleep with her. Now at first I thought this woman is just a damn fool, because she knows and he is pretty open, (on the show) about sleeping around. But after I listened to her session, in therapy, where she described her staying with him as being less about wanting to be with him, and more about “being afraid” to move on, I totally got her and felt her pain…… Seriously i nearly cried……. and this is just reality T.V.!!!!

So here’s the thing; I think that the show is worth watching and more importantly I think that there are millions of women, both young and older, who can learn something from this. When you are in a relationship, where you are staying because of a fear of leaving it is very important to face that fact. Don’t sugar coat it and allow false hope to lure you into a land of limbo where he controls how you live your life.

Ladies, if your with a guy, “for the children” i get it, hell if my parents were to ever split up I know I would beg them to stay together, even though I’m an adult AND i know its selfish……. so I respect those women who are just trying to make their family work, for the sake of all involved.

However, I think there’s a point at which it becomes destructive. If you get to the point where he is sooo comfortable with you being THERE, just there, at his will that he doesn’t even to pretend that he’s working at it with you….. then you need to pick yourself up, look in the mirror…………. and ask yourself if this is really how you want to spend the rest of your life??

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Before you read this post just know that if sex and celebs offends you…….. you need to click the little “x” icon and get away from this blog posting. SEX and CELEBS are today’s hot topic!!…….

So as usual I found myself without anything to do at some point between my bacon sandwich and my migraine,(which is taking the piss outta my life at the moment)…… i stumbled across another blog, about groupies!!!http://www.backstagepazz.com/

Although I am aware that groupies exist it never occurred to me that hearing there point of view would be so damn funny! If you haven’t already i urge you to read the ones about Jim Jones and Jay-Z. I have no idea if they are true or false….. but they are fuckin hilarious!!!

From an anonymous female about Jay:

“he screams like a bitch when he busts. It’s horrible. He has a big, humungous dick and has no idea what to do with it.”

LMAO! Like i said i have no idea if this is true and i’m not sayin it is, but all i know is the tales had me in stitches! Especially the one about Jackie-O:

“She was like “suck my toes” I love it when a man does that. Of course, I did it even though I’m not really into that. After a few minutes of that, she turned in doggy style position. I was thinking I was about to get it in. Then she was like “now eat from behind”. I did it, but immediately she was like “No, the other hole”. I felt like I lost my manhood that night. She was so bossy.”

If that don’t have you on ur ass, crakin up i don’t know what will.

Here’s my thing though…. there are sooo many gurls that wana be groupies and follow these celebs around like they shit silver and gold, when in fact you may end up wid sweet FA.

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