Now after reading some of mi amours (my readers) comments on my recent posts I began to think a little more about SEX BUDDIES and whether they can actually be a way to balance out a woman/mans need for SEX when he or she can NOT find a suitable partner…

Before we go any further let me first DEFINE the term SEX BUDDY/FUCK BUDDY:

“A sex buddy is someone that you have SEX withwhen your horniness is kicking your ass and you need a release. A fuck buddy is for ONE PURPOSE and ONE purpose only….SEX! The relationship you have with sex buddy is as simple as this:    you meet up…you fuck …..you go home!

Fuck buddy relationships do NOT involve EMOTIONS…there is no dating or telling anyone how you could spend the rest of your life with them…..Its just SEX! I suppose some conversation may be nice and maybe some food is required for stamina purposes or recuperation purposes but a SEX BUDDY is not someone you have FEELINGS for!!”

Just needed to clear that up ….as I too often hear people talking about their side-piece or fuck buddy and how “sweet” or “charming” they are…… NOTE: if you think he/she is sweet and or charming…. or you feel like you really like them….. your Sex Buddy relationship just crossed the thin line between sex and emotions and you need to re-evaluate the relationship cos THAT SHIT can go horribly wrong!!

Anywho…..The dilemma at hand is this: You are single and can NOT find anyone that you really wand to be in a proper relationship with……………you can’t find anyone worth wasting your emotions on and falling in love with …..BUT you are a warm blooded mammal (or mama ) and you need to fuck! (Yes that may be a little much but I keep it real!) SOOO……. the question is: IS IT ENOUGH for you to continue living the single life and simply have a SEX BUDDY that comes round on a Sunday – Wednesday night to make you feel good ….but leaves your ass alone Thurs – Sat when your partying and trying to find your ACTUAL partner?? (As I said I keep it real Sun – Wed nights are usually the only time singles really need any company unless your having a lazy day and don’t want to come out of your house one cold weekend!)

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So here I am at 2 in the morning totally aware of the fact that this whole celibacy thing is starting to get on my last nerve……now I have to admit I’ve been holding out for a long damn time and every-so-often I will meet a guy and wonder why I’m still holding out OR I will meet a guy and he will ask me why I’m holding out!…. (Ladies you know them ones right, where all he wants to do is ask you 101 questions about why you WON’T have sex wit him!) Well I have come to the conclusion that there are a few Problems with Sex….

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Check out My Exclusive Interview with Nicki Minaj

where she talks Rappers, Sex, Regrets, Getting Signed,

her New Album and gives RELATIONSHIP ADVICE…..

as well as showing mad love to all her U.K. Fans….

Plus Much MORE!!

In this interviewyou get to see a different side of Nicki Minaj, she’s open, honest and DEEP….. YOU HAVE TO HEAR IT ….. and If You don’t Know about her…. GET TO KNOW!! (Read excerpts from the interview below OR  to read the FULL TRANSCRIPT click here.)

*EXCLUSIVE* Nicki Minaj Interview By Cherie Amour.com from ByCherieAmourDOTCOM on Vimeo.

Video BREAKDOWN:

@ 0.37 mins – Nicki on her New Album

@ 5.15 mins – Nicki 2 Fans & U.K. fans

@ 8.00 mins – Nicki on Sex and relationships

@ 9. 18 mins – Is Nicki Bi-sexual?

@ 10.40 mins – Nicki’s Relationship Advice

@ 11.50 mins – Nicki on Education, Empowerment, Regrets and sucess!

I just want to Thank Ms Minaj for taking the time to do this interview and I have to say it was a pleasure to speak with her….(seriously she’s a really nice woman and I have a lot of respect for her)…..Anyhu, I can tell you now this rapper has soo much more to offer than a pretty face and crazy flow….

Nicki has got her head screwed on and is about to take the game to a whole new level…. not to mention the fact that she has a very important message for all young people who want to be successful! 

If your from the U.K. Hit Nicki Minaj Up on her twitter and tell her you want her to come over and perform!!…. and she will!

PLUS Keep an eye on the site for ‘The Nicki Minaj Competition’ and a chance to win SIGNED Nicki goodies! (coming soon) 

You can also check the Video on YouTube, part 1 and part 2

**EXCLUSIVE: NICKI MINAJ Interview By Cherie Amour**

 Sex and Relationships:

Nicki Minaj on her Biggest Turn on:

I guess my biggest turn on would be someone that aims to please and doesn’t aim to be pleased because if they are aiming to please then I’m pretty sure we can… we’ll hit a home run.

Nicki Minaj on her Biggest Turn off:

 As far as a turn off …….I don’t like chest hairs, that’s gross.

 Cherie Amour: If you could have SEX with anyone in the world, dead or alive, who would it be?

 Nicki Minaj:Umm….. Tupac

 

Cherie Amour: Is Nicki Minaj straight or bi-sexual…. (or whatever you want Nicki Minaj to be?)

 

Nicki Minaj: Exactly…… I’m not straight I’m curly ……..I like wearing my hair curly, I like big poofy hair.

(Read between the lines!!  That’s a nice answer for all those girls out there who have their eye on Ms. Minaj!… There’s a chance ladies… and fellas…. she didn’t shut you down either just gotta approach her right!)

Nicki Minaj on being in a relationship:

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OK so I have my random days and today I got to thinking….. thinking….. about threesomes!! (a.k.a the three-way) A few years ago my response would have been….. ‘ewwww’ honestly I would have turned away in disgust and wondered WTF (what the fcuk) was going on in THAT person’s mind…. to utter such a horrid little word….THREESOME?!

A few years later… I’m thinking is it really that bad?.. In fact, I’m thinking … could it really be THAT Good? You see the thing is….. times have changed to the point where threesomes are no longer a taboo…. no longer something for the promiscuous and the down right dirty….. today you see top psychologists suggesting it to rich upper class couples who are considering divorce…because the SEX …packed up and left the bedroom….well actually, the sex fcukedoff to a whole new country…. and the poor sods are trying to save the empty shell of a marriage…. but anywho…

If it’s no longer a taboo…. I want to know just HOW POPULAR IS IT? Is it something that people only try when they are in a relationship that is failing…. or is it something that only the young and the foolish dare to play with?

In my opinion there’s something a bit more difficult to this whole dillemma…. something that some people just fail to consider…. If you have a threesome…. will you ruin your relationship?

**WARNING** You see your boyfriend may say….  “I’d like to see girl-on-girl action….”  but if you suggest it or go ahead and get it started…. you may find that he’s not so keen on girl-on-HIS GIRL! I was surprised by a recent event and the way that a guy will say he fantasize’s about a threesome BUT ….. is really NOT SECURE ENOUGH, in himself, to let his girlfriend actually participate in one….. or even worse…. HE THINKS he’s secure…. has the threesome….. then wants to complain about how “INTO IT” you were….

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So I realized lately I haven’t been talking about sex as much as I would like to….. so for all mi amours ….. I thought I’d give you some sex positions to try out this week J4F (Just4Fun). ;D 

Continue reading for the pics and details on the best new positions to try…

No 1 – The X position

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OK so I’m up, bored and complete aware that in 4 hours I have serious work to do but……I was just thinking about the stuff that really annoys me about guys…..thing’s that are actually quite intolerable and unacceptable…….and it goes a little something like this:

Top Ten Turn Off’s:

1 – When you think you can tell me what to do  – ‘don’t get a tattoo,’ ‘you went out last night, you can’t go out tonight,’ ‘I told you not to wear that dress’…….**NEWSFLASH** You are NOT my daddy…..so take your draconic orders somewhere else….that ish is NOT gona fly wid me honey! Your going to get that sarcastic… ’yea of course honey’ ….(note to fellas…if she said ‘of course’ or otherwise agreed all to easily……she means HELL NO Bish!)

2 – If you said you were going to call and didn’t…..just in case you were unaware….that is lying (smh)

3 – If you talk the talk and when it comes down to business your stock looks like it was significantly downsized since the last time we spoke! (It’s emotional….. I had all these beautiful visions and in one moment…. you can detroy my dreams and aspirations…….just like that…) It’s worse if AFTER my face gets screwed up with disappointed…… my boy is still looking at you kinning teet (translation= grinning) …..*sigh*

4 – You send me a text and use the word ‘their’ instead of ‘there’…..NO that does NOT count as shorthand…..they have the same number of letters! (This kind of tom-foolery upsets my soul …and trust me THERE will be NO reply …..sorry mate!)

5 – We have a moment…..it’s romantic and beautiful…..everything seems to slow down to the point where it’s just you and me……You lean in….I  lean in ….. our lips touch……..and then you try to see what I had for breakfast by raming your tounge down my throat! ERRRRGH…..please fellas……kiss slowly, gently……and try not to imitate a washing machine….It’s GROSS! (I’m all for passion but don’t go overboard sailor!)

6 – You take your socks off in front of me …..without prior invitation….. Firstly, even if I have no socks on…….there’s no excuse….I just got a pedicure! Secondly…..how you gona just bring ‘em out like that…..I wasn’t prepared, we hadn’t discussed it and I had no time to practice that “I’m not disgusted’ look…. (That kind of behavour can leave a woman scarred for life!)*looks into the clouds and wipes small tear*

7 – Lack of foreplay…….I don’t understand why you think that just because you had a long day….or just because we’ve been dating a while you can skip MY favourite part and just start pumping away…… if I was horny before…..lack of foreplay will definately kill the modd….and you’ll be lucky if you get a goodnight kiss…..tardiness is unacceptable gentlemen! Can I get a witness?!

8 – Going on a date and trying to pull that old……’I left my wallet at home’ ish…….B…..you better go get that ish because bail is gona be much more expensive than this meal! Please believe I WILL go to the ladies and never come back! We’ll see who gets the last laugh …..mwhahahaha (I’m so tired….eyes…closing…..Anyhu…)

9 – Telling me you love me, when we’ve met like 3 times? WTF?! No offence I appreciate the compliment but after that you officially have no chance……You just totally killed the thrill of the chase…..where was the challenge….How you just gona ‘love me’ …..just like that! *sigh*

10 – When you can NOT admit you are wrong……That’s just WEAK! A real man can admit when he is wrong……GENUINELY APOLOGISE…….and maybe let you rub it in a little before you forgive him for his foolish ways =D

Agree or maybe disagree? Ladies, Fellas……What are your top ten turn offs amours???

Pic: Diary of a Tired Black Man….

I know it has no relevance….but her face says it all…….and it’s actually a little ironic….he has the same look in his eye my ex did! lol….Bruva’s explain the look…WHAT TURNS YOU OFF?

Hahahahaha!!! I think that a million’s men’s fantasies were just destroyed instantaneously! Yes people “Angel Lola Luv”….(who is currently re-created herself as “Lola Monroe” ….the rapper) is a lesbian….according to Miss. Sandra Rose. (Sidenote…I’m really happy I got to do an alliterated title!!lol)

If you have no idea who this chick is just watch MTV for like half an hour an I’m sure she’ll pop up….she is one of the MOST famous…and gorgeous video girls in the biz ….and my gurl is 100% from the homeland…..Ethiopia to be more precise….I love it, go beautiful black women!!!

Anyhu, apparently Lola is totally NOT into men and is actually in a relationship with a girl called Logan, who she has known since grade school, which for all the London folk is primary school.

So….I wanted to do this post a little later when I had gained some more statistical info but it just keeps poppin up so let’s get some discussion going about this new LESBIAN TREND in the Black female community!

I don’t know if you’ve noticed but MORE and MORE black women in influential positions and in the SPOTLIGHT are coming out as LESBIANS or Bi-sexuals everyday. We have Amber Rose, Nicki Minaj (who is apparently Bi) and now Lola Luv!!! But here’s the weirdest thing….I TOTALLY GET IT……

I think when I was like 16 or so the thought that lesbians were gross and bi-sexuals were just confused (I hope that offends no-one….clearly i’ve moved on from that)…. quite honestly, I just really didn’t get it….But then again most teens at that age don’t. However I’m really not sure what it is but the female body absolutely fasinates me right now. I’ve always had a thing about girls asses…….and soon that developed into boobs and now I’m just like fuck it….give me a female body over a male one ANY day of the week…..it’s just  way sexier!!

Now I don’t know what it is but for some reason this whole bi-/lesbian thing is becoming more and more attractive to me…..even though I’m pretty sure I’m straight…and would describe myself as such…. seen as I’ve never experienced any of that gurl-on-gurl action I’m always hearing about! You definitely need to Continue Reading…..for more discussion on female sexuality AND a GORGEOUS NEW pics of LOLA LUV, seriously……this is Black Beauty at it’s finest!

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As a young woman in today’s society I feel like there is a thin line between being sexually liberated and being promiscuous….A line that is often hard to identify and is defined in different terms depending on your cultural background, life experience and age….obviously religion also plays a role…and let’s not forget about society’s good old stereotypes….

So….. seen as there are soo many factors that make the difference between a woman or man that is SEXUALLY LIBERATED…and a woman (or man, though this kind of labelling is much less frequent) that is promiscuous what is the best view given today’s climate and norms (normal behaviour).

Personally, I feel like men and women are equal… and I reject all double standardsthat would have applied… say 20 years ago. In my opinion, a lot of people, especially men, have NOT adapted their mind set. I still hear some guys calling girls hoe’s because they had a one night stand….seriously GET OVER IT….it’s her perogative…if she wanted some good good & was responsible, what’s the problem….WOMEN have needs and SEXUAL DESIRES TOO you know!

Why is it that guys can sleep with whoever they want, whenever they want….SCREAM IT from the rooftops and no one bats an eyelid….whereas if girl decides that she wants to have fun with a few guys at a time, you know sample all the flavours….. chocolate on Monday, caramel on Thursday and some strawberry for the weekend,….she is STILL considered a hoe! Why are women being negatively labelled for demanding and excercising their equality in environments other than the workplace?!

Further more, I don’t understand why guys still ask that question when you first start seeing someone: “How many people have you slept with?” Because 9 times out of 10 you actually don’t want to know the real answer! Mainly because most guys still think that women should have VERY few sexual partners………..I’m not sure where the cut off point is exactly…but I’m sure that if a 21 year old girl says more than 10…… a guy’s opinion of her will totally change….EVEN THOUGH most guys that age have slept with DOUBLE if not triple that number of girls! You see it’s this double standard, “do as I say, not as I do,” male egoism that rides my last nerve!

In my opinion, there’s a movement going on rite now…..young women are fed up of being stuck in relationships that do not benefit them…..(why should we commit when men aren’t doing the same?!) they realise that the whole idea of women becoming emotionally attached to men when they ave sex….is TOTAL BULLS**T and ladies are starting to conduct themselves just like men do. You see we have begun to realize that all those restraints they put on us are unnecessary and are SIMPLY A WAY TO CONTROL WOMEN! (Yea, maybe I sound like a radical right now but take it in and think about it!) Look at our new generation of women, like Nicki Minaj and Jada Pinkett-smith, who talk about sex openly and are not afraid to express their sexuality…….

To me it makes sense…why should I be limited in expressing myself sexually?…..while guys fuck around and have all the fun they like! Errr Nah! If I’m single and I used protection…what the F is the problem?…NO I’m not a hoe or a slut or whatever, I’m just sexually liberated! Do you know why guys don’t want women to have this opinion?….because then, most of them are going to have to SERIOUSLY step up their game….cos REALLY …too many of you are JUST NOT MAKING THE CUT!! You talk that maaaad talk and yea…u got the swag but that is where it ends!…..You know how many of ma girls have told me HOW DISAPPOINTING and UNDERWHELMING sex with some guys is!…countless…..(can I get a witness?!!) And you wonder why our numbers(of sexual partners) keeps going up?! Oh perlease……

Anyways…that’s what one side of my brain is constantly saying…but the other side still sets some BOUNDARIES ….Whilst I hate the word Hoe or Slut….(when used just to be spiteful or because she got over you and found some better d*ck)  I still think that a woman can be promiscuous, instead of sexually liberated!….

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So I was having a butchers (U.S.translation = look) around the world-wide-web yesterday and came across some pretty interesting Playboy Interviews with Lil Wayne and Ray-J…….ALL ABOUT SEX!!!

As you know I’m very passionate about this subject…and I felt it only right that I inform mi amours. Here’s just some of what they had to say:

Lil Wayne on whether he is good in bed:

WAYNE: I would say what makes me good in bed is that I am not aiming to be good. I am not expecting the chick to be like, “Oh, he was good.” I aim to please and if you do that every single time, I think you’re overall good, period. You don’t have to try and ram it or let me beat it up.

Ray J on losing his virginity:

RAY J: I had a weird first time incident when I was young. But the real first time [having sex] was at 13 and it was with a girl I liked and I did it at my homeboy’s house in the daytime. My performance at 13 was when I knew I had something going on. I knew there was something special about me and I knew I could perform in the future well. It was off da chain. We both wanted to do it and afterwards I felt that the world had done change. (lol)

You can also read T-Pain’s interview…but he’s MARRIED AND his WIFE WAS PRESENT at the interview……so it’s pretty boring stuff! 

Anyhu….. continue reading for their FULL PLAYBOY INTERVIEWS:

Let me know who you would rather do…Lil Weezy or Ray-J? (I’m all over this Wayne ting! ;o) )

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So remember a while ago I wrote about my admiration for Will and Jada Pinkett-Smith, due to their strength as a power couple…well they showed a united front yesterday evening at the David Letterman show in New York.Jada is currently promoting her new show ‘Hawthorne’, on TNT, where she plays the lead role as a NURSE…..I must admit I’ve seen the trailer and I’m definatley going to be watching.

Anyhu…if you were wonderering why this couple can MAINTAIN their relationship you should check out what Jada said in an interview with Redbook Magazine:

“Nice outfits and high heels! And talking. And making time. You’ve got to make time. Our men want to feel important. We want to feel important. So it’s about establishing an environment in which that can happen. It can be hard because we get caught in the grind of life. Establish relationships with family members or friends and take turns with each other’s kids so you can make that time for yourselves. It doesn’t take a lot of money – wallets are tight right now – so just simple stuff. A night walk? Man, do I love those. Or pack a lunch and go to the park, like Will and I did. Even a drive – and then pull over on the side of the road! Think of places outside that are comfortable to have sex….”

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