So the other day I was thinking about some of my past relationships and trying to figure out why some of them lasted and why some of them NOSE DIVED! I ended up becoming of the opinion that the success of my relationships were somewhat dependant on whether or not the relationship involved Titles!
Now when I talk about the “Title” I am referring to that status we get from being officially crowned the “Girlfriend,” Boyfriend,” “Wifey” or even “Fcuk Buddy” or “Side Chick.” Now I’m not too sure why someone would officially want to be known as the “side chick” but I have heard a few girls refer to themselves as such, and they appeared to be happy with their title so I’m not going to knock it.
You see my question is: Does putting a “Title” on a relationship tend to improve a relationship and satisfy the parties involved, or does it tend to be damaging?
I believe that in some circumstances a “Title” can improve the quality of a relationship. It gives both parties a clear sense of their role, for example if I’m your “Girlfriend” there is somewhat an obligation to be there for you through emotional hardship, financial instability and to cater to your physical needs. Being the “Boyfriend” implies that you will protect, look after and spoil your girl like the princess she is….. Am I bugging or does that sound about right?
The point is that having a “Title” tends to draw the boundaries of the relationship more clearly. If you asked me to be your “Wifey” and I fluttered my eyelashes, got butterflies and said “Yes” with the upmost satisfaction, one can assume that NEITHER party is entitled to “see other people.” The relationship has become EXCLUSIVE! This being fine and dandy there is obviously a downside to putting a “Title” on it….
) and you need to fuck! (Yes that may be a little much but I keep it real!) SOOO……. the question is: IS IT ENOUGH for you to continue living the single life and simply have a SEX BUDDY that comes round on a Sunday – Wednesday night to make you feel good ….but leaves your ass alone Thurs – Sat when your partying and trying to find your ACTUAL partner?? (As I said I keep it real Sun – Wed nights are usually the only time singles really need any company unless your having a lazy day and don’t want to come out of your house one cold weekend!)
So here I am at 2 in the morning totally aware of the fact that this whole celibacy thing is starting to get on my last nerve……now I have to admit I’ve been holding out for a long damn time and every-so-often I will meet a guy and wonder why I’m still holding out OR I will meet a guy and he will ask me why I’m holding out!…. (Ladies you know them ones right, where all he wants to do is ask you 101 questions about why you WON’T have sex wit him!) Well I have come to the conclusion that there are a few Problems with Sex….
Wrote this the other night ….and was NOT going to publish it, for fear that y’all may think I’m crazy but I now realize maybe I’m not the only one going through this so if you can relate let’s try to help each other 
Now going to an all White girls school until I was 18, meant that I didn’t date 
Ok, so for some strange reason in recent years I have constantly run into the problem of having or developing a friendship with a guy that somehow becomes unravelled by the prospect or proposition of sex! It’s starting to bug me that at a certain age, in an era where sex is no longer a taboo, it is difficult to maintain a platonic relationship with a person from the opposite sex….
OK so I’m up, bored and complete aware that in 4 hours I have serious work to do but……I was just thinking about the stuff that really annoys me about guys…..thing’s that are actually quite intolerable and unacceptable…….and it goes a little something like this:
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