So here I am at 2 in the morning totally aware of the fact that this whole celibacy thing is starting to get on my last nerve……now I have to admit I’ve been holding out for a long damn time and every-so-often I will meet a guy and wonder why I’m still holding out OR I will meet a guy and he will ask me why I’m holding out!…. (Ladies you know them ones right, where all he wants to do is ask you 101 questions about why you WON’T have sex wit him!) Well I have come to the conclusion that there are a few Problems with Sex….
You see the main Problem With Sex is that there is NO point in having SEX if its NOT going to be GREAT SEX… (for a number of reasons; to list a few 1) your numbers go up, 2) The risk of STD’s is way too high today and 3) It’s a waste of time, you could have just DIYed it!…lets keep it real please!) I mean good sex is acceptable if your in a relationship getting it 4/5 times a week (at least) but if your not then what is the point in having any sex if you KNOW that it’s not going to be GREAT SEX right?? Honestly… MEDIOCRE is just NOT a standard I will settle for when its comes to sex!
My whole thing is that as much as I would like to do the deed and get rid of some of this erotic energy I have pulsing through my veins I always stop myself because I am aware of the things that young girls probably ARE NOT told often enough…All Sex WILL NOT be good sex! You see you can’t just go out and have sex with any guy and expect it to be good because you have to, not only be physically attracted to him, you also have to have a strong sexual chemistry with THAT PERSON, otherwise, whilst you can moan and groan all you want during the act….chances are your legs are NOT going to be shaking and you are just NOT going to get the climax that sex is all about.
The problem with sex is that it’s more complicated than many people think……. I don’t really understand one night stands because I feel like to have really great sex you have to be really comfortable with a person, so that you don’t have those awkward moments during …..example…you don’t know each other that well and he thinks calling you a “bitch” and a “whore” counts as “talking dirty” and you think that shit just crosses the damn line! Don’t laugh that has happened to many a people I know! And guess what…..if your not into that….you ain’t gona get yours honey…..you be be looking at the dude sideways, with that WTF look on your face… thinking “WHAT did this dude just call me?!”
Anywho I think my main point is that way too many young people now-a-days see sex as soo acceptable and normal that they give it up a little to easily…much to their disappointment…Thus despite the fact that I can’t sleep right now because my loins are aching for some good loving …. I will continue to honor my vow of celibacy purely because I would rather be celibate than endure an evening of small talk that ends with highly disappointing “damn-I-knew-my-ass-should-have-stayed-at-home” sex!
Ladies (and Guys too) I need a witness, I’m not lying right?!
Oh and one more warning mainly for my ladies that may get caught out if they are not careful….Just cos he got swag in his walk and he can wine on the dance floor, or even because he is hung like a horse…Does NOT mean he knows how to make you moan…… Oh I just thought of another blog for the dudes….some schooling maybe!
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Damn I wish I would’ve read this article last weekend before I went out. I had a crush on this dude for a minute and thought it was gonna be amazing but it was definitely some “damn-I-knew-my-ass-should-have-stayed-at-home” sex, it wasn’t terrible but it wasn’t great so it wasn’t worth it. Good advice.
Err Cherie , Here is your witness mate! I was having this conversation with a guy-friend of mine who tried to empathise talking about “even if a guy climaxes doesn’t mean he enjoyed himself”. Really? You could’ve fooled me and about a million other ladies. ‘Cos when guys notice that girls are not enjoyong themselves – as much (by that sideways glance you mentioned earlier), did they stop to ask BEFORE they climaxed- “whats wrong” Hell No! They kept on and now they can see the dissappointment clearly on a girls face they gunna try acting like it was bad for them too. Purlease geezah! Mediocre sex does not mek it, because while some girls are still watching those numbers, guys seem to have a more relaxed approach to this and so if the sex aint all that (ahem! not saying it always is, just…ahem) they dont seem to care as much, just move on to the next one, while us ladies sitting down talking bout I-should-have-stayed-my-horny-ass-at-my-yard-KMT! Celebate me thinks, at least until Im soo hot for a guy that I look at him like cayote looks at raod runner when he’s imagining roadrunner as a cooked turkey with all the trimmings and waves of deliciousness coming off him……. Yah!!! that could be a while. LOL
Yes girl I am in the same situation right now this dude want to and I may want too but I think it will be a waste of time Idon’t think hes packing I know so I think I’m going to save my self time an energy and just say no…
@ Diva: I 100% agree….. I’m not sure where these people get the idea that dude doesn’t have to packing to make you holler….In my opinion the chance of a small package making your eyes roll back in your head, is VERY SMALL! Def just say no…at least until you have some other concrete evidence that it will be worth matching uo your underwear and all the rest of that preparation we have to put in!!
@Twiggy LMAO!! I totally agree wit u gurl…If a guy bust…he had a good time…he got his! Ain;t no way dude can tell me “yea I buss but it still wasn’t gd” ….WTH??? lol
Thats what Im talking about gurl….no sex unless its one of those ones where ur sooo ready to go you skip dinner and end up getting to it in the car before u even reach the yard! …..We are BOTH patiently waiting *wipes sweat from forehead* lol…..patience is bout to kill me!
@Jessica …That is EXACTLY what I had in mind when I wrote this cos I did that ish before too…thought oooo he cute…this could be fun….only to end up pissed off and irrate that he managed to fool me…the worst thing is the guy always seems to either think he’s good or tries to play it off like it was you…..my whole thing is that its kinda hard for a gurl to be crap in bed….thus it’s untimately his fault…..let me ask you…what did u do next…delete the number or will you give him the benefit of the doubt and decide he was having an off day??
Don’t worry about it though gurl…..every woman has been in that situation… thing is you just have to learn from it and learn not to make the same mistake again, no biggie! Thats the thing about bad sexual encounters…you can put them in a box at the back of your mind, learn from them and then move on …. like it never even happened!! Glad you think it’s gd advice though hun!
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