Comments on: What they DON’T tell you about HAVING A BABY!

By: LaLa

LaLa — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 19:03:26 +0000

I think everything you said is the truth. I am 14 going on 15 pretty soon and I wish every girl my age could have read this so it could knock some sense into them, I’m not a virgin but I use condoms every time I had sex and have no plans on having kids at ALL. I watch 16 and pregnant the MTV show and I can tell it hurts I was in the hospital room when my sister was gave birth to her 2nd son at the age of 19 and that was a big wake up call. I have 5 friends who have gotten pregnant between the ages of 12-19. I have more male friends that have baby’s at young ages then my female friend’s. I know having a baby is NO JOKE and I don’t wanna give birth but when I’m 28 and have enough money for one I wanna adopt a baby from another country. I’m black and I don’t like the stereo-types about black people being the ones to get pregnant because out of all my friends (male & female) only 3 are black and they others are white or another culture or even mixed so lets not act like its ONLY the blacks doing the wrong….

By: Mz B

Mz B — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 01:15:12 +0000

I completely agree with everything you wrote. I don’t think a lot of young girls, and women for that matter, think about all those aspects of bringing a child into the world. I don’t think you were too hard or anything. I think females need to hear that. The truth can sometimes be the opposite of what you want to hear but be exactly what you need to hear. I don’t think females today give themselves enough value and they need to learn to appreciate themselves and hold themselves on the pedestal that they should, which in turn makes it harder for a man to just treat you any kind of way. You have to know your self worth if you expect anyone to treat you that way. I am married myself and I am waiting until I’m absolutely ready and prepared myself mentally, emotionally, and financially before I begin staring a family. I also want to build a support system of friends and family for myself, my husband, and our child before I even get pregnant. Both of my parents are deceased and I want as many people around us (my husband, child, and I) as I can to be there that we trust for support. I think more females need to read this!

By: Laura

Laura — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 16:24:34 +0000

I am pregnant at the moment recently having had a misscarriage. I was on the contrecpetive pill. Both pregnancies were a huge shock. I do not have any major religious belief, I had considered abortion the first time. But what really shocked me was the pain of losing that first pregnancy. It stung me more than anything had. I felt very empty and hallow, and I have always been a practical person, who does not think of things in this light. this surprised me very much the pain of losing that child. The father is a man I care for deeply, and he is very in love with me. Yet it is not out of love for him that I do not belive in aborting this pregnancy. . after the pain of losing the first one, I feel I could not cope with killing the second myself. I feel that there is something inside me, and I feel more strongly then ever the need to protect it. Therefore i disagree with your claim that most women dismiss abortion on religious or moral grounds. It is not your conscience or religious reason that stops you from getting an abortion. It is a very deep instinct to protect, and a sharp pain at the thought of losing something that is part of you. Even if you do not believe in God, or moral, you will believe in that. so therefore, when women say, “I do not believe in abortion” I understand now exactly what they mean and what they are going through. (although, before, I never would have understood this claim, as, like you said, most are hypocrites and do not practice religion).

By: Samantha

Samantha — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 19:54:14 +0000

Agree 100%. Glad to hear someone tell it like it is – I am 23 and most women I know of (my age and older) had a kid either to trap a man or fulfill their own selfish desires (emotionally and/or financially). Makes me sick to my stomach for the kid(s) and for a lot of these fathers who are “sittin ducks” – Thinking they have a cool chick they can trust all the while they are being hunted for their sperm. I know because this is what happened to the man I am with. He was a fool for being so trusting and was taken advantage of after trying to help her get back the 2 kids she lost because of neglect and helping her get a place of her own. She now has 4 kids by 4 different fathers. I also feel for women like myself who are in love and want(ed) a family with the man who has to deal with this kind of situation. You’re angry with him for being so stupid, you can’t stand that woman for having his baby that otherwise would have been your entitlement, and then you have to make the decision of staying or leaving because this is not the bed you made…Then again, maybe this was the mother’s intention. If she didn’t have the father in her life well, she’ll always have a child from him to maintain some control over his emotions/life. Why do these girls think they are flying under the radar – they’ll get whats coming to them in due course.

By: cutie

cutie — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 01:36:23 +0000

i fully agree with all of this woman have children for many of reasons and majority of them are selfish reasons big one trying to keep a man but in the end your left with the burden. You should never have a child to keep a man because no one can be kept people come together out of respect and love for one another and when you try to force that it backfires. I one thing that i will defend on a man point of view is that even if you make the mistake of sleeping with someone you don’t love pregnancy is out of a mans hand they can only give their opinion or wants but in the end it is the woman who makes the decision and so many woman misuse that decision for imaginary personal gain and in the end the child is always the one who losses. So girls, women respect yourselves, your bodies and the people you come encounter with its to many kids running around right now without stable homes from bad choices. holla

By: Tasheena

Tasheena — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 19:45:56 +0000

WOMEN MAKE THESE MEN PUT ON A CONDOM AND GET SOME BIRTH CONTROL PILLS HENCE YOU WONT GET PREGNANT WHY BECOME A PARENT WHEN YOU ARE NOT READY. LIVE YA LIFE AND ENJOY IT WHILE YOU CAN IF YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE A BABY MAKE SURE HE PUT A RING ON IT AND ACTUALLY WALK DOWN THE AISLE BEFORE YOU PUSH OUT HIS KIDS.

By: Tasheena

Tasheena — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 13:31:32 +0000

RIP TO MICHAEL JACKSON AND FARA FAUCETT GOD BLESS AND KEEP THERE FAMILIES.

By: Tasheena

Tasheena — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 20:21:56 +0000

OMG YOU ARE TOTALLY RIGHT. I KNOW SOMEONE WHO BELEIVES THAT IF SHE HAS A CHILD THAT SOME HOW HER RELATIONSHIP WILL GET BETTER. ALOT OF WOMEN/GIRLS DO THAT AND THEN GET UPSET WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE PARENTS RAISING A CHILD. MY BEST ADVICE WOULD BE TO NOT PUSH OUT ANY BABIES FOR ANYONE FOR YOUR HUSBAND THAT WAY YOU GUYS ARE ALREADY FULLY COMMITTED TO EACH OTHER AND THAT MAKES IT LESS EASIER FOR HIM TO LEAVE AND ALSO FOR HIM TO DENY THE CHILD.

By: Cherie Amour

Cherie Amour — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 18:13:57 +0000

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By: Denise

Denise — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 21:18:40 +0000

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