In light of this whole Lil Wayne, Nivea, Lauren London baby drama this week I started thinking about the real issue at hand, that affects 100,000’s of girls and young women all around the world. That issue is having a baby! Yea, they are cute ^^ BUT LISTEN UP!

There are a number of misconceptions and things that, I feel, many young women are simply NOT TOLD. This leads to a countless number of women, young and old, having children for all the wrong reasons. I have to clear this up and shout this information from the ROOF TOPS until you girls GET THE MESSAGE! So….. what is it that they don’t tell you?

Firstly, I feel like NOT ENOUGH women TRULY UNDERSTAND that having a child for a man IS NOT GOING TO MAKE HIM LOVE YOU! Too many girls feel that if they have a guy’s child they will have a stronger connection, through the child, and that some way, somehow, they will be able to come together as a couple and make things work. NO! You are WRONG!!! and that is the end of it!

Here’s the thing….if a man didn’t love you and didn’t want to be with you BEFORE you had the baby…..he is NOT going to love you AFTER your have the baby.YOU KNOW WHY? Because he will forever RESENT you, if you tried to TRAP HIM or FORCED HIM to take on responsibilities he was NOT READY FOR! Men tell me if I’m lying…..(I know some guys have good hearts and will make it work but now-a-days….they are FEW and FAR BETWEEN)

Another thing that everyone plays down is JUST HOW MUCH WORK goes in to raising a child! Think about it, that child is going to be with you EVERYDAY, 24/7, morning, noon and night, needing attention, love and devotion! How will you provide all of that if you don’t have financial security, if you DON’T have a stable and SAFE living environment? and if you DON’T HAVE a NETWORK of support from family and friends?…..I’ll tell you what happens….YOU DON’T PROVIDE WHAT YOUR CHILD NEEDS! And if you think that’s it’s OK to raise a child in sub-standard living conditions, and to NEGLECT your child when it all gets TOO MUCH, just because you didn’t really think it through….then you are SELFISH AND IRRESPONSIBLE!

Now don’t get me wrong sometimes, you just get into a bad situation and have NO ONE there to TELL you this stuff, so if you had a baby and YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN, my heart goes out to you and I hope that you learn to cope. BUT this is WHY I am trying to educate other girls just like you, who’s fate is yet to be decided. I want you to leave a comment and tell them if I’m lying….

OK, lets move on to those girls who have unprotected sex, then justify their pregnancy on the grounds that they DO NOT BELIEVE IN ABORTION. First I will say that for some people this is true, and that is fine BUT…..what I see all the time is women using religion as a cover up for having a child for  all the wrong reasons. Let me tell you WHY I DO NOT BELIEVE YOU………You are NOT acting on any religious values when you go out and get drunk, or go party until sun up……….. you are not acting on moral beliefs when you smoke and harm your body in other ways, you are NOT RELIGIOUS when you don’t even go to church or pray on a good day and YOU WERE NOT RELIGIOUS WHEN YOU WERE FUCKING THAT GUY WITH NO CONDOM, that you are NOT MARRIED TO…..nor will you be acting on religious norms when you have a child out of wedlock!

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